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Twilight Zone

Did you wake up one morning and feel like you were living in the twilight zone? 

There is an element of fear in this country that we have not had to deal with for generations, and there’s a huge number that has picked up your phones and thought about posting something on social media or sending a message. But, still, you are so terrified to send your actual opinion that you didn’t do it.

Many of us feel gaslit, we are being told the exact same news nearly word for word about a virus, and when we tried to discuss, question, or even make a joke, we were dinged, and in some cases, attacked. Or we were lucky, and we didn’t get attacked, but we laughed at a post or thought – right on, I totally agree but then saw all the hate come pouring out that you suddenly felt like you are the minority.

Something changed in the world while you weren’t looking, and now you feel isolated, lonely, and fearful. You just want to do your job, take care of your kids, have barbecues again. You were okay with the masks and staying home because you genuinely wanted to help. You don’t want to become some activist that has to stand up at work, you need your job, and you don’t want to have to be on the school board… but something is just not right. You don’t know what to believe, and you don’t have the time to research, but you are starting to feel day by day that putting your head in the sand isn’t going to cut it.

You are seeing people apologize and still lose their jobs. You are witnessing tweets, emails, and posts from decades ago get dragged out of the archive to force people to agree. I had lunch with a good friend, and we don’t always agree on politics, but we agree on what matters. We agree that there are problems but ‘having a meaningful conversation in 140 characters just doesn’t seem adequate”. We talk about the desire to have meaningful discussions about complex issues without them becoming political. 

We discussed the need to be able to have a conversation without fear of retribution. To challenge ideas at work without it being taken personally but instead, come from innovation and making things better. We agreed that the ideas that started many of the movements we are seeing today had good intentions. Still, now these movements are forcing us to defend and debate the very essence of who we are to continue to provide for our families and to be able to just get along with our neighbors. 

Personally, I find myself questioning the idea of “the right side of history” because both sides are so entrenched in the idea that they are on the right. My friend so eloquently said, “You can’t have an open discussion with your foot on my throat,” and that’s what’s happening. 

“Okay, Caroline, I agree, but I don’t have the time, energy, or desire to get into some stupid political war. I just want to be able to make a live my life.”

Exactly!! This is where I want to help. I want to help you manage those feelings of fear and isolation. I want to help you open your thoughts to ideas without feeling attacked or self-righteous but more curious and like a scientist. 

I want to help you feel less alone, and more in control of the one thing you can completely control and no one can take from you. Your thoughts. 

If this sounds appealing and you want to talk, let’s set up a call and see if there’s a way I can help and if we would be a good fit to work together because, at the end of the day, all you have is your neighbors, you co-workers, your family, and your thoughts.

Did you wake up one morning and feel like you were living in the twilight zone? 

There is an element of fear in this country that we have not had to deal with for generations, and there’s a huge number that has picked up your phones and thought about posting something on social media or sending a message. But, still, you are so terrified to send your actual opinion that you didn’t do it.

Many of us feel gaslit, we are being told the exact same news nearly word for word about a virus, and when we tried to discuss, question, or even make a joke, we were dinged, and in some cases, attacked. Or we were lucky, and we didn’t get attacked, but we laughed at a post or thought – right on, I totally agree but then saw all the hate come pouring out that you suddenly felt like you are the minority.

Something changed in the world while you weren’t looking, and now you feel isolated, lonely, and fearful. You just want to do your job, take care of your kids, have barbecues again. You were okay with the masks and staying home because you genuinely wanted to help. You don’t want to become some activist that has to stand up at work, you need your job, and you don’t want to have to be on the school board… but something is just not right. You don’t know what to believe, and you don’t have the time to research, but you are starting to feel day by day that putting your head in the sand isn’t going to cut it.

You are seeing people apologize and still lose their jobs. You are witnessing tweets, emails, and posts from decades ago get dragged out of the archive to force people to agree. I had lunch with a good friend, and we don’t always agree on politics, but we agree on what matters. We agree that there are problems but ‘having a meaningful conversation in 140 characters just doesn’t seem adequate”. We talk about the desire to have meaningful discussions about complex issues without them becoming political. 

We discussed the need to be able to have a conversation without fear of retribution. To challenge ideas at work without it being taken personally but instead, come from innovation and making things better. We agreed that the ideas that started many of the movements we are seeing today had good intentions. Still, now these movements are forcing us to defend and debate the very essence of who we are to continue to provide for our families and to be able to just get along with our neighbors. 

Personally, I find myself questioning the idea of “the right side of history” because both sides are so entrenched in the idea that they are on the right. My friend so eloquently said, “You can’t have an open discussion with your foot on my throat,” and that’s what’s happening. 

“Okay, Caroline, I agree, but I don’t have the time, energy, or desire to get into some stupid political war. I just want to be able to make a live my life.”

Exactly!! This is where I want to help. I want to help you manage those feelings of fear and isolation. I want to help you open your thoughts to ideas without feeling attacked or self-righteous but more curious and like a scientist. 

I want to help you feel less alone, and more in control of the one thing you can completely control and no one can take from you. Your thoughts. 

If this sounds appealing and you want to talk, let’s set up a call and see if there’s a way I can help and if we would be a good fit to work together because, at the end of the day, all you have is your neighbors, you co-workers, your family, and your thoughts.